The Reason Dadam is totally my father (wut?)
December 14th, 2009 | 
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CAN KRADAM HAVE MORE AWESOME FAMILIES???
From AO, it seems that Dadam spoke at charity event sponsored by the LGBT center to raise money for local kids sports programs..Read the whole thing and I dare you not to fall in love (if you already haven’t)….
http://www.adamofficial.com/us/node/1070971
So many kids are without the love and acceptance of their parents, especially their fathers. Gay kids and adults are often separated, physically or emotionally, from their families. The LA underground Adam flourished in is filled with heartbreaking stories of “weird” kids, rejected at home, refugees building their own sense of family amongst their kindred spirits. Adam’s accepting father was the exception and I think it shows in Adam’s success. Not just career wise but success at being centered, proud and confident, at being emotionally healthy. Eber only did what he was supposed to do- he loved his son. And the impacts of his being a loving father are now felt in the hearts of so many around the world.
Bonus Adam/Neil youth war stories (perfect reason for me to post this pic! LOL)
(Heather, don’t go getting any dirty thoughts in your head you big perv!)
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The apple didn’t fall far from the tree…..Adam shows the
e warmth that his Dad displays….plus if you discount the black hair….his ginger likeness of his Dad is uncanny!!
Dadam is such a sweetie. I remember that pic from their bicycling trip in Italy this past summer. Ouch!
just spent 2 horrible days having had to euthanize my 4 days short of being 16 year old Pug, I so needed this beautiful and uplifting story about Adam and his dad. Done nothing but cry for the last 2 days and this of course made me cry evenb more but in a good way. Love his parents for being there for Adam then and now.
I’ve had a crush on him since he said “sports, not so much” on Idol.
The caterpillar on the soccer field the “Adam scores a goal!” stories are *completely* adorable.
Lovely article. They talk about how Mr. Lambert looks like Adam….but does he have freckles too? Just wondering where all those came from. :) (I am a fan of Adam’s freckles…hahaha.)
Bushytailed, I was gonna make the
e comment…adorable
I had already fallen for Dadam awhile ago, he is made of 100% awesomeness. I wanna hear more about these fights between Neil and Adam growing up, lol. I remember Mombert said they made her cry one day. She said it was right after idol, but before the tour started…Adam was talking to Neil on the phone and they exchanged I love you’s when they hung up, awwwww.
I think Eber’s real test of being an accepting Dad was after the hidden wild child in Adam came out at 18 and embraced his sexuality, ,travels in a very lenient anything goes Europe, Burning Man participation, ,(drug use, I am sure they knew about it) and his immersion in the brutal, discriminatory , world of gay culture in L.A. I am sure his parents were worried sick about him, I know I would have been. This particular speech did not focus on the fears and anxieties they must have had for their beloved son, but I hope Eber may address that at a later date as I think it will help a lot of ¨unsure parents of gay boys. I have enormous respect for Eber Lambert.
The stuff about Adam playing soccer was so cute. Do they have any home videos? Would love to see the Caterpillar Moment.
What a wonderful story, I wish more parents of gay or straight kids would take away something from this story. Its all about love and having open minds, and have your children know there is nothing that they can’t come to you with. My parents always made me feel loved and safe and I tried to do the
e with my kids. What a wonderful family, they aren’t perfect, who is, but the love and respect they have for one another shows. Thank you JC for posting this story, made me cry in a good way.
Blubbering like a baby here! Just beautiful!
“his immersion in the brutal, discriminatory , world of gay culture in L.A.”
Just wondering about this statement. Wouldn’t you say, instead, that the LA/Hollywood world was where he finally found acceptance?
donnilynne- I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Hugs to you.
As for Eber, I love love love him.
PattiH, alot of young gays boys are exploited and abused by older gay men simply because they are so desparately looking for this love and acceptance they never got from their families. Ever heard of the term “rent boys”? Its a big business in L.A. at the expense of young gay boys. Thank God Adam did not go that route, I suspect mainly because his innate intelligence and family background held him in good stead. He did ultimetely seem to find acceptance in LA it seems primarily through the entertainment world. Thank God.
Elizabeth, don’t know where you’re getting your information but it’s skewed, hyperbolic, and about 3 decades’ old. The term ‘rent boy’ is in fact an old expression that is much more common in the UK than the US, and further, the phenomenon you describe is as equally dangerous for young straight women who move to big cities. Every subgroup has its 3% of skeezy creeps – there is nothing inherent in the gay community that supports the idea that this percentage would be higher. What’s big business in LA is anything film/TV/video-related, and that would include the porn/adult entertainment industry, which I would agree attracts more than the usual 3% of creeps.
And honestly, if I ever was asked for advice by a teenaged cousin who was coming out – I’d tell them to get the heck out of their small town and get their butts to a big city, regardless of their family’s reaction/support. The 3% aside, in a big city there’s a much better chance you’ll find: a GLBT center; a queer bookstore or cafe; a gay sports club; a year-round Pride committee … basically a more far-ranging and diverse population from which to draw strength and make friendships. Which, believe it or not, is usually more important to someone just coming out and into themselves, than the chance to cruise guys/chicks.
conquistador – thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot.
Hi, Clio. I know the exploitation of young people crosses all lines and gender, not just in the gay culture. Also, that a lot of young gay guys thrive in big cities, if they can find their way. Happily, it looks like Adam did. My comments were not meant as a rant against the gay community per say, just an observation based on personal family experience, trying to relate to the Lamberts, that there are a lot of pitfalls inherent when a young, inexperienced gay person goes off to the big city to be immersed in a new lifestyle, and it can be terrifying for their families. Perhaps, the Lamberts shared your opinion, and did not worry about their son. I hope so. Sorry that I upset you, not my intention.
Hi Elizabeth – you didn’t upset me, and I didn’t think you were ranting. More, the perception saddened me, and I wanted to provide a more accurate and reassuring reality. Any young, inexperienced person going off to the city faces pitfalls. (Assuming the kid isn’t just running away from something) From a gay person’s perspective, it isn’t a new lifestyle, it’s the emergence of a more cohesive and true identity. And they want to find a wider context where their real selves fit more completely. I would imagine for some families it’s terrifying for any of their children to move away to a big city – but I was trying to give more information to help dispel any feelings of terror based on inaccuracies, urban myths or lack of knowledge. Not with a desire to say ‘no you’re wrong’ but more ‘actually, that’s a lot less common than you think, and there’s a lot of good that you’re missing’. My apologies in return for my clumsy (and clearly failed) attempts to phrase things neutrally, I didn’t intend to sound so brusque!
i love you peeps here. All explaining things so nicely and thoughtfully. 3 cheers for Elizabeth and Clio!!!
Clio, I respect intelligent people, such as yourself, who are not afraid to express their opinions. We are really on the
e page here,just wanting quality of life for our deserving, courageous young gay people. I just hate the fact that there is so much bad shit in the world, wish we could change it all overnight, but social change takes time. Maybe a guy like Adam will help with that? Thanks for your insightful comments, I learned a lot from ths interaction. Have a great evening.
Elizabeth, I think we are 200% in agreement about our hopes that Adam will be part of larger social change that will help make more young gay people feel self-confident and safe enough to make whatever choices they make in becoming the best people they can be. What I love about Adam is how well-spoken and focused he is – he’s such an adorably smart mensch when he speaks, that alone does so much!
Thanks for a great conversation – often I think it’s the hardest thing to do online, to make different points of view clear when they are only slightly apart from each other, without it getting misunderstood. Which is a shame, because I think allies can always learn from each other, you know? Hope you’re enjoying Adam on Conan like I am!